Marriage is like a shoe

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"MARRIAGE is like a shoe. When you wear oversize, be ready to drag it along through out life, and when you wear under-size be ready to feel the pains through out life."

One thing about marriage is that you don't drop your shoe or remove it at any point, no matter how painful or how stressful it is. That is why I thought it necessary to write you this letter. 

Dear Singles, When you are ready to buy your own shoe please take note of these three things: 

PHYSICAL APPEARANCE : Do not look for the beautiful ones, the nice ones or the cheap ones. Look for the one that is your size. Not every handsome, wealthy or intelligent guy is for you, not every beautiful woman is for you. Look for the one that is meant for you, the one that aligns with your values and belief, the one who you meet at your life's journey. It is important to know where you're going in life before you think of getting a wife. 

POSITION : All sizes of shoes are not placed in the same place. There is a place for court shoes, laced up shoes, sport footwear, snickers etc. We have Children sizes, young people's sizes and the adult sizes. Know where to get your own shoe. Your size cannot be everywhere my brother, your type cannot be everywhere my sister. You cannot be a Christian, and be looking for a wife material at a club. Your wife or husband can't just be everywhere. Stick to your values and therein you shall find someone like you, but when your values are not defined anyone can just match you. Discover yourself and define your values. 

PERCEPTION : In this kind of shoe purchasing enterprise, you are not permitted to try the shoe before you buy. This is why it is important to seek guidance and counseling, from people who have bought shoes before or are into the business of directing people to the right shoes (Pastors and Relationship coaches). And most importantly to avoid much time wasting time, simply consult the SHOE MANUFACTURER to tell you your size (GOD ALMIGHTY ). 

"You do not prepare for wedding, you prepare for marriage." Ladies these days get so motivated when they attend wedding and they will quickly want to say yes to that guy. 

Wait!!! It is not just the wedding oh. The wedding is just one day. After the wedding WHAT NEXT? 

Finally, it is not something you rush to the market and just pick a shoe because you like or can purchase it. Ask questions : 

-Where is this shoe made from? (Background) 

-What's the size (Values) 

-How much (His/Her interest) 

-How long will it last (His/Her Character) 

-Who made it? (Is she/He of the same faith This is compatibility) 

-Will it match me? (This is whether he/she love you and will accept you the way you are) 

Dear one, remember many are dragging their foot and they would hardly reach their destinies, many are feeling endless pains and wish they could pull off the shoes but no way!!! I have seen people with beautiful shoes and when they show you their foot, you will see scars. 

Beloved, it is not about the physical, it is the size, you can't know the size from afar so come close, build a relationship first but remember 'you are not permitted to try it before you buy it'. 

And for those who have purchased the wrong shoes, you can still make it your size again if you'd consult the manufacturer and let Him have His way in your marriage. God bless us all.

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Mungkin ada orang yang setuju tapi ada juga yang tidak setuju dengan pendapat diatas. Aku sendiri mengingat perjalanan kami sampai berumah tangga sekarang ini, melewati hubungan yang bertahun-tahun juga selalu ada saatnya naik dan turun. Bersyukur kami boleh melewati banyak hal disaat suka & duka bersama-sama sebelum akhirnya memutuskan untuk menikah, jadi kagetnya ngga terlalu kaget-kaget banget lagi. Tapi tetep namanya manusia ngga ada yang sempurna ya, jadi yang namanya ketidak cocokan itu tetep pasti ada, tinggal bagaimana kita nyari jalan keluarnya. Banyak juga pengorbanan yang kami harus lakuin satu sama lain demi menyatukan visi. Kalau inget-inget dulu berjuang untuk ikutan konseling pernikahan selama setahun lebih rasanya sempet hampir menyerah karena kami punya prinsip yang berbeda. Kalau dulu sebelum menikah mungkin boleh berpikir untuk menyerah, sekarang setelah menikah kami harus berjuang lebih keras lagi karena kami percaya apa yang disatukan Tuhan tidak bisa diceraikan manusia, jadi kami berusaha supaya bisa terus tumbuh bersama dengan kasih Tuhan. Mungkin habis ini aku harus setuju kalo suami mau beli sepatu baru, daripada beli bini baru ya hehe :P